The Measure of Success
Is the measure of success only money and outside status? I know some working moms whose children focused on careers so much they have no grandchildren which they dearly want. I have nine "grandones". Would I be considered a success or a failure at raising my children? I think success is the positive impact we have on the lives of others.
Before Mrs. Obama set the great example as a stay home mom first lady for millennials, I was a mom with a business degree at home full time in the 80's. People SHUNNED me when I told them my occupation. From childhood, I wanted to be at home differing from my mother's opinion that an outside career led to a meaningful life. I volunteered and was trying to start a business from home when my ex-husband decided a single mother on his job needed his assistance to raise her teens more than his own four little children and I did. He said I was capable and did not need him.
His leaving sent me into immediate working mother status. I rocked that with the same fervor as I rocked stay at home motherness. I earned a teaching certificate with a 4.0 g.p.a. after a car accident and convenience cause me to change careers. My children excelled in many activities. I chose not to compare them so each could find his/ her own way. All were trained to teach by me and I encouraged them to find whatever life’s work satisfied their purposes. I humbly share this and acknowledge my faith in God as the power behind my ability to do this within my family village.
My oldest daughter is a mom with a new Master’s Degree working outside of home. She utilizes the stay home mom ideas and teen having to help with the little ones ideas in raising her daughters. My second daughter is a stay home mom artist with a degree in Psychology. She is fortunate to be at home and realizes her future will include work outside the home. My son is a student/ worker facing the challenges that the economic climate produces. My youngest daughter is a mom/ student/ employed at home who surprises many with her natural mother-wit and ability. Whoever feels fulfilled by working outside the home should do that, says this mother who really enjoyed her time at home.
I will not presume either of them will produce more successful children by their choice/ opportunity of living positions. They are raising healthy academic achievers who see the sky as the limit because they have dedicated themselves to RAISING their children.
Working moms have more successful daughters and more caring sons, Harvard Business School study says | Gabriel Fisher, Quartz
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