Since black don't crack I don't really know how old some of these men are… I will estimate they are 60 to 80 years old maybe. But I wrote this rant as a response to the egregious remarks that have come my way lately when I’ve gone galavanting through the world with my daughters. I want my daughters to know that (unless under special circumstances which involve them being a minor and it’s their parents that are involved) no old or young man should ever take part in their reproductive choices.
Let me start this letter with this… I know that 50 years ago the relevance of your opinion in my life was tantamount, but it’s 2015 and I don’t care what you think. Yes you may be guided by the "Lord" or whatever god has ordained you as the voice of all blackness, but your opinions and secret conservatism and sexism is slowly dying off in our community. Women are free now and black women no longer need to sacrifice themselves and their dreams to keep you at the helm of the forward mobility of “our race”.
I'm going to start off just like that as it seems as though when I'm out with my three daughters I literally experience random older black men telling me how much I need a son to fill my life, complete me and make me “a real mother”.
- You know you ain't done yet
- Maybe he ain't doin' it right
- Nothing like having a boy to make you feel like a real mother
- You know you're not really a woman unless to you make a man
- You can't be finished
- I need to talk to your husband.
Wake up guys, wake up. You have no right to express your discomfort with the confidence that I have in my ability to raise powerful awesome and probably dominant women. You have no right to express your discomfort in seeing happy little black girls. You have no right to express your discomfort with my face when you open your mouth with that bass-ackward crap.
To the others of you that are more progressive, thank you. Keep keeping on… Encourage your peers to mind their own damn business... It's just disrespectful and insulting.