Enter my youngest. She is almost three, cunning and confident. I never really paid attention before but I noticed that when she sings, sometimes it's a bit... Hmm as I'm writing I can't even describe it. But I attributed it to her being a baby and just loving to yell. Since she is the youngest I figured she was creating a signature method to be heard and distinguish her place within the three piece. But I am very wrong.
I've thought about this. Lots of families have signature traits... Super tall, very soft spoken, uncomfortably attractive or really smart, really outgoing, or really badass; even super athletic or artistic. But when we take for granted these God given "signature traits", the black sheep usually feel the brunt of not fitting in. Here are a couple things to do about it:
1. Nothing is certain. Your entire family may be red heads and you end up with the kid with jet black hair. Genetics is the trick of nature. Recessive genes are the trump card of the game. All of humanity is part of one massive gene pool so honestly it's a toss up.
2. Don't punish your kid for being different. If everyone is cool and your kid happens to be the weirdo or loser don't let other family members bully them or mistreat them. Being different can be punishment enough.
3. Talk to your kid and help them find the things they are good at. Make sure you highlight everyone's talents. Not just the signatures. That way everyone feels great!
4. Make your family try new things. Trying new activities lets you see new talents come to the surface. It also puts everyone in a position of a novice.
Being part of a family should be fun. These are the people you can reference and depend on. At least it should be that way. When you are with your family you should feel at home. Signature talents although awesome and defining, they can be burdensome and pressuring. Make sure that as parents you're aware of everyone's abilities and you provide opportunities for everyone to shine... Even mom and dad.