My husband is a pretty decent self trained musician. He’s dabbled in various types of bands and he has a passion for music and electronic music equipment. One day I noticed him meticulously show our oldest daughter how to tune a guitar. How interesting? He was working hard at showing her how to listen; how to turn the strings; how to hold the guitar. She sat quietly as he went through the quick lesson. I ended up leaving them as they worked on a very easy set of melodic chords.
Lately, I've been training our kids in the morning to get up and run (rain or shine) in an effort to establish a healthy relationship with running and discipline. As a former athlete, maybe it’s my expectation that they’ll love sports, but really I just want them to experience what it’s like to set a goal; make a sacrifice; work with others; and feel small and large accomplishments.
We will naturally share our interests with our kids because, they're our kids. But sharing what we love or what we are good at with our children, isn’t a guarantee that they will love the same things we love. In our excitement to share our own interests, talents, and skills, we should never assume that their outcomes will be our own. Teaching your children is not easy. In fact, it can be very frustrating. But if you work with your child in a loving and open manner, it’s a great opportunity for both the parent and the child to grow in patience and appreciate their similarities and differences. In the end, it’s the exposure to our knowledge-base that will guide their own exploration through life. That exposure is critical to their development and confidence building.